The week has been a wreck on the psyche of many in SA. From political polony that has shaved already thin nerves. The disease of hate. Life is set to be a fast paced thriller. Climates of change tend to do that especially when confusion sits cushy in the inventors of disturbance. With peeps asking me to investigate the route to applying for political asylum if the the offcuts of russians hit the proverbial to the evidential divided landscape. Our seasonal change looks to heading towards a freezing one where faux fur none the warmer.
An overwhelming lighthouse shines.
Once we have admitted that our lives are consumed by the negative feelings about ourselves, others and have faced those demons, the next hardest thing to do is to take responsibility for our wrongs. None of us is perfect and each of us have done things that make us ashamed of our behavior. But we cannot carry that shame forever. There comes a time where we need to let go so that healing can turn us into whom we were meant to be in the first place.
In this article below a very clear step by step formula is laid out to help each of move past the things that hold us captive to awful histories. And we all have them. We don’t change overnight so we need to take stock daily of our own actions. Step 8 helps us to keep accountable, Step 9 keeps us humble by asking forgiveness. Gosh I have had to do this many times. Daily sometimes. Even with my clients in the salon I have had to apologize when I have let them down and that takes such guts. Knowing that we may not be forgiven is rough. But the point of personal accountability is that it frees us from the chains that bind us to guilt. We can not control how others respond but we MUST always do our bit to keep the ‘vrot’ out of our thinking, hearts and actions. This is journey we take for the rest of our lives.
THE OPPOSITE IS HORRIFIC….
Recently I got asked to participate in a live makeover show. By the end of day 4 people were almost harassing me to please make them over. What is stunning about this is that as a hairstylist I know that I bridged the gap between Afro and Caucasian hairdressing in SA that little one step closer. All I know is this is that if I still allowed myself to hate the people who sexually abused me as a child or had not forgiven myself for the years I messed up being stuck in my unresolved issues acted on through addiction, I may never have had the chance to wipe a tear from a face that knew that I saw them and not another potential threat. Or another potential future heart that I may let down. Do I still? Oh gosh…. can you see my angel wings yet?
BUT BEING BETTER….. I AM WORKING IT HUUUUUUUUUNEY!
DAILY I REMIND MYSELF…. GOD THINKS THAT I AM WORTH IT…. THAT IS WHY I AM ALIVE AS WE ALL ARE. HOW I HONOUR THAT IS THROUGH BEING THE BEST I CAN BE WHILE LEARNING AS I GO ALONG. WILL YOU JOIN ME?
Our lives are not the sum of our experiences but the ability to love beyond borders through it all.
Stay your amazing self!