Conscious LEADer

What if we could retrace our steps….?

Where regrets could be altered?

History done differently?

In the 🎥 ‘Discovery’ on Netflix this question, amongst others, is addressed. The search for validation and purpose exists in each of us! I have many things that I would undo if I could. However, they are done and I can choose to rectify myself by being different today for the hope of a better tomorrow.

In the book ‘The Secret’, great pains are taken to suggest the power of positive thinking. Although in part true and an essential practice to live by; positive projection must be followed by positive action. It is too easy to be blinded by words/ thoughts of grandeur but our unresolved issues in our heart treat others around us ‘vrot’.

In my 43 years I have seen, and I was guilty too once upon a time, that often people are only nice to those they care for, regard highly, and match their own ‘standards’ whilst brush all else off with disdain.

A fantastic yardstick that I heard in church once is this,”When a person is looking to go into ministry, I often make a dinner reservation at their home and ask the the home-help who they feel about their employer.” RIGHT?!?!?

What about?

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WHAT ABOUT US

GREAT LEADERS SEE THE POTENTIAL IN ALL PEOPLE AND NOT A ‘SUPREMACIST’ FEW.

This article below, is a magnificent yardstick of authentic leadership.

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Shining hero

Richard Branson says it like this:

CLIENTS IN THE SALON, ADORE ME….BECAUSE WHETHER YOU ARE OLDER, YOUNGER, WEALTHY OR NOT; THE SAME MISCHIEVOUS HUMOUR, TRANSPARENCY AND ETHICS APPLY. PEOPLE ALSO KNOW THAT IF YOU ARE MEAN….”HUUUUNEY, KEEP YOUR BUSINESS FOR SOMEONE WHO WILL PUT UP WITH THAT NONSENSE. IT AIN’T WELCOME HERE!”

I have taken great lengths, consciously, to not be surrounded by racists, sexists, elitists or any other ‘ists. I may be generating less capital than I ought to for a stylist of my experience and caliber, but my actions are an honest reflection of my heart. I SLEEP AT NIGHT, WITH A CLEAR CONSCIENCE. DO YOU?

In Illovo Muse center the janitors, and security and I have a nickname for eachother, ‘goshi’.

It is short for Magosha, which means prostitute. I KNOW RIGHT…..LOL. We call eachother this term of endearment because we are honest labourers and not prostituting our hearts or selling our souls to the devil for fame, money or otherwise. Daily we can hold our heads up high because we are loving eachother in spite of difficult circumstances in a real, honest and kind way.

WHAT ARE YOU DOING THAT TREATS OTHERS LIKE A PROSTITUTE, SO THAT YOUR PERSONAL POCKETS ARE LINED?

People are people; not

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CLOWNS

You are not a prostitute, don’t treat others like one.

In my life I have many amazing moments, where random acts of kindness touched me deeply. One of which is when Marina Applebaum then Coleman sponsored a 6 week rehab stint for me to have a chance at fixing my addiction cycles. Even though, I no longer am her hairstylist I still tentatively watch her business developments and work in HIV education. She will always be a hero to me.

Sometimes we all need help. Here is a STUNNING video to help us b generous in loving others. Enjoy!

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LOVING GENEROUSLY

BE AN AMAZING HUMAN, ABOVE ALL ELSE!

A MILLION REASONS EXIST TO HATE EACHOTHER FIND THE 1 000 000 ➕1 2 ❤️

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Million Reasons

Stay your amazing self!

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AJB•

The huMAN In U spIritUality

We are an incredibly lucky species!

It is long argued that we are on top of the food chain because he have the ability to decipher choice.

‘Jung suggested that the memories and past experience of a man’s ancestors were buried deep inside his psyche (Burger, 2008; Feist & Feist, 2009). Jung called these hand-me-down memories of our ancestors the “collective unconscious,” which he believed was the reason for the universality of themes throughout world religions, mythologies, legends, and other stories. (Burger, 2008; Feist & Feist, 2009). The universality of themes also suggest that Jung was more interested in how people were similar to each other than what made people individually different from one another.’

Quoted from:

Carl Jung’s Concept of Humanity and Theory of Personality, Wesley Meacham

Updated on October 15, 2016

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CONCEPT OF HUMANITY

HOUSE OF MERCY

BOKSBURG, SOUTH AFRICA

(2004…roughly)

It is here that I chose to become a believer and since have wrestled with faith and humanity…..eish and it is a battle! Marawe haibo!

Part of the 12 Step Recovery program is stepping out of DENIAL, making a MORAL INVENTORY, and ADMITTING TO GOD AND A FELLOW HUMAN the exact nature of our wrongs.

Sweetie, daaaaaarlin’, huuuuuney,babe,angel, captain,boss…..

Herein lies the dilemma….lol! Besides the obvious fact that I was an addict (more to the fact that amphetamines gave me energy to dance for days and thereby make “friends”, than the actual use of the chem’s did & the chemical psychosis was a thrill for my ADHD mind to play),(no I am not endorsing Chem’s…….I hate them with a passion but we are talking openly and plainly). I am gay. I have the ability to, sometimes, see things that others don’t like to think about and I am a darn naughty brat….lol!

What I am trying to say is this: being in a spiritual minority group, a minority sub-culture, and having to stare at others who consider gay weird and spirituality weirder, having to share my life story honestly….see what I mean? I would rather have sung my ‘kumbaya hallelujah’s’ doll!

Over the years, in and out of rehab, recovery and in the salon, I have heard thousands upon thousands of life stories. Have had to receive and give feedback; sometimes accurate and sometimes so far off the mark that one would think that another species of human lived amongst. Like seriously hun!

Which, neatly, brings me to the point. But first I must clarify.

I had an intriguing chinwag with a Muslim client a while ago who pointed out a particular scripture in the Quran. So I have been wrestling, praying and begging for answers from my HIGHER POWER. I say it like this as I am not GOD, ALLAH, BUDDHA,JESUS,YHWH,SHIVA or any other name we have for our VARIOUS religious affiliations. I have my belief which works for my understanding and I respect and honour you yours……please return the respect likewise!!!!!!

(I WILL GO INTO THE DISCUSSION OF QURAN 50:16 A BIT LATER)

By the way….my ADHD…..lol…..THANK YOU TO THE APPROXIMATELY 21000 READERS OF MY BLOG. I know that my blogs are flawed with errors but I am sure you are feeling the ❤️❤️❤️ behind my layman writing! YOU GUYS ROCK!!!!! WOW!!!! INTERNATIONAL READ BLOGGER, this recovering addict and award winning stylist. DANG!!! THANK YOU! ( sorry to say, however, LINKEDIN readers, make up 65% of my readers….catch up lol.) thank u, thk U, THANX BABE!

Ok back to the point…..ok wait a TRUE STORY first…. regarding the point.

(2005….roughly)

After reading , ‘Waking the Dead’, John Eldridge, I dragged myself to the Magaliesberg to meet God. It was an exercise of separating myself from my usual distractions and to commune with GOD. I eventually found an open piece of land, parked my car, and walked up the koppie. Because I looked back to keep an eye out that my car wasn’t being hijacked I tripped. I fell face first onto a rock that the words ‘JESUS THE ROCK’ had been spray painted onto. Yip, I burst into tears! It was like the world got ultra small and I could feel GOD smiling. I chatted for hours to thin air filled with a presence that is beyond logic or words. Since then, I have come to accept that we don’t need to travel to meet GOD, he is in us and all around us. RIGHT?!?!?!?!? I CRAPPED MYSELF….in a cool kinda way! I didn’t have a cellphone or a camera on me at the time so have no pic to show you….wonder if it is still there!….mmmm)

Magaliesberg Mountains

(pic borrowed out from sleepingout.co.za)

QURAN 50:16

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CLOSER THAN THE JUGULAR

In most religious teachings a similar concept is taught:

1) Creationism

2) God is omnipresent

3) God knows us intimately

4) God connects ❤️ and mind (spirit to soul)

FINALLY THE POINT:

No matter what our individual beliefs are and we each believe we are most RIGHT; similarities prevail. So instead of hating and killing eachother for our differences, LET’S LET US LET THE MOST ACCURATE GOD DECIDE AND JUDGE!

In the meantime let us open our hearts and minds to OUR HOMEWORK.

OUR HOMEWORK IS TO ‘LOVE OUR NEIGHBOURS LIKE OURSELVES’

A VALUABLE LESSON:

The Spirituality of Being Human

1) ACCEPTING OURSELVES AS INDIVIDUALS

To do this we need to objectively turn every stone over. We need to examine what we believe, why we believe it, how we behave & why we behave this way. Accept our flaws and continuously and constructively change what we can whilst remaining, humbly, honest in our short-comings and being open to change.

2) ACCEPTING OTHERS AS INDIVIDUALS IN A TRIBE (WORLD) OF INDIVIDUALS

Very quickly we will see that most of us have a similar flaw…..we each want our RIGHT to be RIGHT as the most RIGHT. This single-handedly will begin the process, if we allow it to, to draw us towards others differences. None of us has the power to be GOD, but each of us has the power to let LOVE prevail in-spite of our differences.

WE EACH HAVE BLOOD THAT FEEDS OUR ORGANS……THE MOST CONFOUNDING HAPPEN TO BE ❤️ & MIND!

3) BEING A PRODUCTIVE MEMBER OF THE TRIBE (WORLD) OF INDIVIDUALS

Being productive has less to do with being the MOST RIGHT as it does with putting our ego’s down to choose the most loving, kind and beneficial way of living that supports a sustainable and equal earth for EACH to freely grow towards the individual purpose they are designed for. MANY ROADS LEAD TO ROME and GOD whether you believe it or not, doesn’t need our help. He chooses to help us by going through things with us…….(we are closer than the jugular….he knows our days before we are born…..namaste)

4) LEAVING A LEGACY

This is the easiest and toughest one……will you be leaving behind hate, rape, murder, theft, greed, gluttony, anger, war, violence, bitterness and unforgiveness or will you be leaving a legacy of self-examination, tolerance of agreeing to disagree, harmonious ‘getting on with eachother’, loving others as equal to ourselves and standing up for ANY form of abuse that creates fear in another to stop freely seeking TRUTH?

NO MATTER WHO YOU OR I THINK WE ARE, WE CAN BE GUARANTEED THAT WE ONLY KNOW A TINY PIECE OF A TINY SOMETHING ON A TINY PLANET IN AN IMMEASURABLE UNIVERSE.

STOP HATE!

❤️ LOVE!!!!!!

I have no actual evidence that there is a next, but in the meantime the experience of GOD that I have had, guides me to continually focus on correcting my flaws as HE guides me towards whatever is next. You or me killing eachother to exert power to prove our point will do anything except create hate and rebellion.

After 13 years of being a BELIEVER, I have yet to be told to hate, kill or harm another. In fact; I get reprimanded if I do have anger or hatred. And, for the sake of peace, considering that Evolution is maybe true…..we are all brothers and sisters. As for my sexuality and my faith……it is a battle that is tough. Do I wish to be straight? No! Do I wish to be gay? No! If I could have it my way….I’d rather avoid any of the argument of ‘sexual’ and focus on loving others no matter what. Until then what will be will be!

WHAT I DO WISH FOR….IS TO LOVE OTHERS AS MUCH AS I AM LOVED.

Your journey towards authenticity is your own to walk, as is mine. Finding truth requires constant stepping out of comfort zones.

Faith/ Economics/Governance of any kind was NEVER meant to be used as a weapon to create hate!!!!!

An interest documentary….

Check out “Michael Lost and Found” on NETFLIX.

mmmmmm….SHAKA ZULU/ DINGAAN NEED I SAY MORE!

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A BIT OF ZULU HISTORY

THE JUGULAR TRAVELS LIFE FROM ❤️ & MIND; USE YOURS WISELY….. CHOOSE ❤️!

Stay your amazing self!

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AJB•

P.S: pls share!

End’s begINNING

There was a time that I thought ends were ends, over was over, and an innings had been played!

A simple lesson from hair is that it grows, well most of the time. Obviously, there are times where various factors result in hair loss; permanently. I can waffle on for days about alopecia.

One of the most amazing experiences of my life is the drawing to a close having a full head of hair. Yes I can, and might, have hair surgically stitched in to have one last 80’s fringe but it is just not that important to me. I know, I know, I know…..how can I say that as a hairstylist. The truth is that I love playing with other people’s hair but my own……aaaaaargh!

What I am trying to say is simply this!

LIKE HAIR GROWS, AGAIN, AFTER A BAD HAIRCUT, ENDS ARE, SIMPLY, NEW BEGINNINGS.

I had to take my focus off my vanity, and put it into something more solid; even if it is the most fluid thing of all…..the energy of the quality of my heart!

We live in a time where so many ideas, choices, lies, agendas, pretense and illusion are floating around that our ‘love languages’ are misplaced to say the least.

I have spent many years in the school of hard knocks and in the Councillor’s chair learning to put my misplaced love back into it’s rightful place……MY ❤️.

So too from my sleeve and into my chest. I had to learn to love AUTHENTICALLY, with PURPOSE, MYSELF & OTHERS EQUALLY and with TOUGH LOVE.

Tough LOVE says: ‘I mustn’t take responsibility for that which you must and visa-versa; but encouraging, supporting, offering kindness and cheering eachother on towards greater heights!’

Often people over compensate for each other’s issues; that makes us ENABLERS to them staying weak!

So how do we LOVE AUTHENTICALLY?

In other words, HOW WE THINK ABOUT LOVE AND ACT OUT LOVE determines if we love!

LOVE IS A VERB!!!!!

TO HELP US, HERE IS A CHART THAT TEACHES US TO ‘DO LOVE’ TO OTHERS THAT COMMUNICATES AUTHENTIC LOVE!

It is no secret that I am a BELIEVER of GOD. Goodness knows that I may not be the best ambassador of a believer but I am a work in progress……yes, sweetie, daaaaaaaarlin’, honey, angel, babe……just like you…..BUT I AM ACTUALLY VERBING ON IT…..lol.

How does GOD verb ❤️?

IN SHORT:

From experience I have learnt that if I am serving myself, I tend to be impatient to get what I want, trample on the toes of others to get what I want, lie, cheat, feel hard done by and think that it must be ‘MY WAY OR THE HIGHWAY!’

Sound like anyone you know?

No?

Are you sure?

Looked in the mirror lately?

The end of hate brings a world of beginnings. Beginning’s that bring a massive adventure in the fluid energy of authentic tough love! TOGETHER, EACH OF US DOING THIS WE MAY STAND A CHANCE TO HEAL THE WORLD AND HELP THOSE THAT ARE VICTIMS OF OUR PRESENT DISPOSITION OF HATE!!!!!

CHOOSE ❤️!

Stay your amazing self!

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AJB•

let’s NOT start a war

I woke up to this…..it’s a confirmation of my dreams and what I am sensing…..on a global scale. I think this is why my blog has suddenly been read in countries all over the world, with LinkedIn readers reading them between 80-350 times per post.

Please read and share and make this blog viral. ( I gain no financial rewards from this blog. The only thing I want is the chance to see how far I can grow my little business and my personal goals in a free world)

RECENTLY I HAVE BEEN IN A HIGHLY RECEPTIVE STATE OF BEING! THE EMPATH PSYCHIC IN ME IS DEEPLY DISTURBED!!!!!!

In the last week the level of anxiety is so high that I am smoking like a steam-train. It has been years since I have been like this. It all sounds CREEPY, but even scarier to be feeling and seeing what I am!

WAR!!!!!

I haven’t wanted to say it because it is vile and once it is out, IT IS OUT!

These articles will shed light on what I and many are saying!!!!!

Billions upon billions have died because of the devious greed of personal gain!!!! These articles shed some light on where to start looking for the truth of the WARMONGERING FEW!

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Benefactors of war 1

Benefactors of war2

Benefactors of war 3

Benefactors of war 4

In this article below from the New York Times, a clearly laid out synopsis of how the few who stand to benefit, have destroyed our love for peace by stirring HATRED to profit!

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WHAT EVERY PERSON SHOULD KNOW ABOUT WAR

I know that this is a HECTIC BLOG, but as clear as you are reading these words is as clear as I feel and see what is coming!!!!!

But…..

Lots of us have access to technology! We can investigate and find the WARMONGERS and bring them to book. Instead of hating on eachother, the mass of the worlds population can find these IDIOTS; force them into a boxing ring and make them fight eachother.

I mean really doll, why should the innocent fight on behalf of those that will gain financially! Besides; sweetie, huuuuuuuny, daaaaaarlin’, babe, angel I WOULD BET MY BOTTOM DOLLAR THAT THESE PEOPLE WOULD SQUEEL LIKE PIGS IF THEY HAD TO ACTUALLY FIGHT FOR THEMSELVES…..

Lessons from history regarding war:

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Lessons from history1

Lessons from history2

Let’s not start a war……

THE INEVITABLE HEARTACHE OF THOSE THAT ARE LEFT BEHIND TO PICK UP THE BLOODIED BRICKS, BURY THE DEAD, NURSE THE INJURED WILL BE SO IMMENSE BECAUSE………

HELLO…..THERE ARE MORE PEOPLE ALIVE NOW THAN EVER BEFORE!!!!!!

I know that you think that I am a nobody, just a hairstylist but let me explain it like this:

1) I saw my fathers youngest brother drown at sea a few days before it happened.

2) I saw my father being beaten up by 8 men before it happened

3) I saw my mothers friend being arrested for diamond smuggling weeks before it happened

4) I saw my matriculation history paper exam scenario the night before, i had to write it

5) I saw my that my last relationship would not last forever at the same moment I knew he would be the one

6) I saw how, a client, who I have never met before, is finishing herself for her daughters addiction, because the she (the mom)is over compensating as she was an orphan herself

7) I knew about 2 weeks ago that I would be getting my car back; it’s been standing at a garage for forever. Monday I got the call that the garage is closing down so my car needs to be removed

8) I saw that I would be my own boss 4 years ago but had no idea how, what or where as I am not ‘rolling in the dough’…This Year it happened with R600 in my pocket and an opportunity to rent a chair in a salon.

9) I was visited by the spirit in my parents home 13 Marchant Road,Bluff, KZN, South Africa. I crapped myself….REALLY….still don’t know what the point was.

10) I have seen an AURA 1x whilst studying Reiki…on a nurse doing a body scan on a model/patient who was in terrible pain from her monthly cycle.

11) I knew that I was going to win the Twincare Hairstylist of the Year 2017 at the end of 2015, and my self-destructive nature did everything to sabotage myself

12) I know that a friend of mine is going to be devastated in a relationship from a cheating partner and I just cannot tell him

13) I KNOW THAT A BIG WAR IS COMING AND IT IS BECAUSE A FEW ARE CREATING IT!!!! I wish that I could tell you more, but so far all I know is that war is being plotted in secret places!

But hey don’t believe me….. I am just a hairdresser. Imagine being me, and having a moment like this…….WHAT WOULD YOU DO?!?!?!?!?

CHOOSE ❤️

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John Lennon: Imagine

Stay your amazing self!

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AJB•

MOM’S MISSION

I GOT THIS RESPONSE TO A BLOG OF MINE ON TWITTER:

WELL BABE, HERE IS MY ANCESTORS ANSWER:

THIS PIC IS SUCH A PROFOUND IMAGE OF HUMANITY…

I see this image every day and today it speaks to my heart. Glasses have different colors, different shapes, different uses but each is useful. Taken to basics, each glass holds something; each human holds a heart!
My Mom was an incredible woman. She would read us Sunday school stories, bake the BEST cookies in the world……still can't find a recipe that tastes like hers did, and sing a song to us over and over again. I will never forget her amazing heart. THE HEART THAT WITHSTOOD ABUSE TO STAND UP FOR LOVING HER CHILDREN.
Thank God she did because if I was left up to the world we live in, I may have never learnt how to love others.

MY MOM❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️
Don't be fooled by her Irish bush of hair, demure smile and loving eyes…..this woman was fierce. No, not fierce as in vicious, fierce as in ' she could break your stoney heart with simple words like, 'God cries when brothers or sisters fight', or 'He is still your father,' or, 'the devil looks after his own kind,' or, 'everyone is Gods favourite', or, 'she, who is she; she is the cats mother!'
WELL HERE IS THE SONG:
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THE SONG

Today's blog is a small one because my MOM was a woman of few words, and true wisdom never needs to be elaborate. It says what it says and does what it does without pomp, without ceremony!

THE QUESTION IS THIS, HAVE WE FAILED OUR CHILDREN?

Jesus loves the little children
All the children of the world
Black and yellow, red and white
They're all precious in His sight
Jesus loves the little children of the world

Whether you're rich or whether you're poor
It matters not to Him
He remembers where you're going
Not where you've been

Jesus loves the little children
All the children of the world
Black and yellow, red and white
They're all precious in His sight
Jesus loves the little children of the world

If your heart is troubled
Don't worry, don't you fret
He knows that you have heard His call
And he won't forget

Jesus loves the little children
All the children of the world
Black and yellow, red and white
They're all precious in His sight
Jesus loves the little children of the world

All around the world tonight
His children rest assured
That He will watch and He will keep us
Safe and secure

Jesus loves the little children
All the children of the world
Black and yellow, red and white
They're all precious in His sight
Jesus loves the little children of the world

If we are honest with ourselves; all the money, the intellect, the beauty and fame will never satisfy the yearning in our hearts to be understood?!?!?!?!

STAY YOUR AMAZING SELF !

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AJB•

Undoing of a Slave

I HAVE A NATURAL AFFINITY FOR THE UNDERDOG!

There are various reasons for this. Growing up in a house where my Dad's moods were unpredictable to say the least , was tough. Do the math… 17 years x 365 days of which a rough estimate of experiencing violence was at about 70% of the time. I phoned my sister to check my facts to make sure that I am not overstating the figure. PLEASE don't feel sorry, we survived and came out tough….lol. The point is this: 'When you fear for your life, you try make yourself as invisible as possible, fight back eventually as you are designed to survive, become a hater of people by brushing all people with the same brush or become empathetic to others because you don't want to be a history repeater; and, through default of circumstances, become a slave to others opinions to try make them love you.

I HAVE BEEN A SLAVE TO MANY THINGS!

(An excerpt from 'Identity Theft', Dr. Rob Spina)

Because I wasn't allowed to experience myself as one should I became a people-pleaser, drug addict, sex addict, love addict, workaholic, GOD addict and worst of all a self-harming 'aholic. The two addictions that I must still conquer are cigarettes and chocolate.

The amazing thing about GOD is that, all of a sudden, I am being granted mercy to experience myself as a human.

I know this sounds strange, but let me explain. For years I was addicted. I merely SLIPT from one addiction to another, quite unbeknownst to me. When each didn't yield the necessary healing I moved onto the the next thing.

But; you are asking; GOD ADDICTION?
I was addicted to the idea that GOD, would wave his magic wand and make me straight, not hurt, and be HEALED of my issues. Well huuuuuuuny, GOD can but he does not choose to work that way. Well not unless he is making a point about something to teach us a lesson about the point he is making. The reason, as I understand it and I cannot speak on his behalf, we are required to do our own personal homework, is that we are designed to be empathetic to others.

WHAT DO I MEAN?
2003 (roughly)
One day, driving past Emperors Palace on my way to my out-patient after-care program, I had this experience:
Me: God, please can I go in and gamble? I really wouldn't mind having a bit of an easy time for a bit. Some money would make this recovery thing so much easier. I wouldn't have to work sooooo hard to make money to try pay the bills, pay for my Councillor, pay for petrol to drive, live in a more uplifting home, go on a holiday and get away from it all for a while. I mean you know that what I am saying is true. I am not asking you to fix me, I tried that but you haven't, I am asking for a chance to fix my mess.
God: My boy, if I did that don't you think that you would keep going back to keep achieving your goals by gambling? Also, babe, let's look at it from my birds eye view…. if I do that for you, isn't it fair then that I do it for everyone as EVERYONE is my child?
YES, I DO TALK TO GOD LIKE THIS AND VISA VERSA. I PROMISE THAT IF YOU HAVE TO ASK RUBY WEBER, IF SHE REMEMBERS, IT TOOK A FEW MOMENTS TO CALM MY NERVES, AS I HAD JUST BEEN TAUGHT THE MOST INCREDIBLE LESSON…..FIRSTHAND.
{I am honestly not making this up. I was in my little canary yellow FIAT UNO driving to HOUSE OF MERCY in Boksburg to see RUBY….I was late as usual and despondent about having to scratch the bits of a life together….I wanted a 'fix it all miracle'.}

Needless to say that I am 43, still gay and progressively taking more and more ownership and responsibility for my own life. I THINK THAT GOD WANTS, PEOPLE WHO ARE LEARNING TO GET OVER THEMSELVES WHO CAN ENCOURAGE OTHERS TO DO THE SAME SO THAT WE ARE NOT SLAVES TO HIM, MONEY, DRUGS, SEX, SELF-PITY, HATE, FEAR, AND INSECURITIES. From my own personal experience, I am seeing that love doesn't avoid issues it takes us through them to teach us about authentic love.

When I was deciding to write this topic called: 'Undoing of a Slave'; I really thought that it was going to be about the perspective of a 'western' human philosophy regarding our ego that thinks it has the answers on how to fix the world.

(The amazing thing is this, WE DON'T! Not one person has the answers to life! When we speak to various people we quickly learn that our perspective is NOT the only accurate one)

A Story:

A client was telling me about how she got fed up of her husbands, seemingly, haphazard way of organizing his clothing. Soooooo, she set about reordering his closet by colour code and shirts, pants, jackets etc. SOUNDS FABULOUS RIGHT?
Well hubby blew a gasket. His 'Closet Philosophy' is: Clothing can be worn 2x if not dirty…..so his system is unworn clothing to the right and 1x worn clothing to the left. The second time clothing went into the wash basket. When he got to the middle and there was nothing to wear then problem. So this innocent deed of reordering the closet meant having to wash everything from scratch as it was impossible to know the unworn from the worn 1x.
This lesson taught my client, her hubby and myself that both systems work and neither can be said to be more accurate.

Bringing it home.

This article (click ⬇️) , that I found when researching my topic about, 'Undoing of a Slave', is a beautiful perspective of a person of colour's point of view about things in an Afrocentric world.
DO YOU HAVE A SLAVE MENTALITY?

Well huuuuuuney, sweetie darling, luuuuuuuvie, bokkie, skat; ne'?

The writer may or may not be tongue-in-cheek in this article. All I do know is that this article is ACTUALLY an insight into every household; be it whatever nationality.

After 23/24 years of hairdressing I can confidently say that each of us suffers from a slave mentality. You see it in our over-exertion in our cars, homes, relationships, careers, social patterns and the way we present ourselves.

IF IT DOESN'T LOOK GOOD, TASTE GOOD, SMELL GOOD, COST GOOD, SOUND GOOD OR FEEL GOOD WE ARE NOT GOOD…. SOUND FAMILIAR.

We spend so much time hiding ourselves through being slaves to opinion that we have become addicted to proving others WRONG. We are creating a mentality that follows certain rules, like sheep, because that is THE NON-SLAVE WAY. Look like a BOSS, act like a BOSS, talk like a BOSS…..

WELL…..

I AM IN A PROCESS OF LEARNING TO TRUST MYSELF, GOD AND LIFE BY ELIMINATING THE INTERPRETATION OF OTHERS OF SUCH….THIS MAKES ME A REBEL…. SO FAR: I HAVE NEVER LOVED GOD, OTHERS AND MYSELF MORE. I AM SEEING THAT WHEN GOD SAYS, "JUSTICE IS HIS," HE MEANS IT AND CERTAINLY DOES IT. I have had to eat humble pie to break my inner slave that has been trying to be EVERYBODY ELSE but me. I was trying to be a BOSS. Yet in my flaws I have learnt to acknowledge the flaws in others too, but LOVE them anyway…..I THINK THIS IS WHAT IS CALLED 'POETIC JUSTICE'.

This following quote says it best:

The undoing of a slave is perhaps asking, "How do we, as a world, become free; together?"

A BIG SONG THAT TEACHES US, SINGULARLY & GLOBALLY ABOUT SAYING SORRY!

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SORRY

Stay your amazing self!

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AJB•

the ANGRY african

I have argued myself every which way and whether or not to write this blog. Yes, even the title is exactly DELIBERATE. I have stumbled into a global consciousness and I don't know if I want to know it. Trust me, if what I just saw in my awake dream is possible, then I am scared. REALLY SCARED!!!!!


Off the bat, let me explain a few things.
1) This week has taken its toll on me. Even my clients are saying that I look tired, which probably means exhausted. Most people are too polite to say exactly the truth; even less want to hear it.
2) Remember in some of my earlier blogs how I have mentioned that I was born psychic and that it is the kind that happens to me from time to time? Well today I saw a client, for the first time, and this message came out of my mouth to her…..a complete and utter stranger…."Don't let the unresolved thing that you have not forgiven yourself for make you become a prisoner for your child's choices.' RIGHT?!!!!!!!! The best part is that I was in the Johns when it came to me. The metaphor is a cold and pungent one. Well tonight it's 12:35 AM and I cannot sleep. No, I am not drunk, stoned, high and or anything else.
3) This week has brought out something in me that is searching for answers….I think all of us are in the same boat?! Discovering that I am an empath, with an ability to (sometimes) see things, but always get vibes, in a week like this week with our lives hanging on by a thread due to our political landscape is pulling me apart. It sounds awfully dramatic, but I can't sleep, I am eating less than normal, my usual flirty humor is not as loud. I am preoccupied to say the least.
4) I started a thing called: 'Conversations in a Cab' with the intention of broadcasting day to day chats with various people I meet….keeping drivers anonymous and streamed live using Facebook.
(if you want to check it out click ⬇️)
Conversations in a cab 1
Conversations in a cab 2
Conversations in a Cab 3

The truth in ZA at the moment is that there is a racial divide that is causing some issues.

On the one-hand we have 'foreigners' arguing their rights based on personal achievement through hard work, rights to live here as they are born here and some who are in this camp desperately protecting the gains they got from an Apartheid regime.
One the other hand we have African africans who are arguing their rights based on the fact that they are indigenous to Africa.

The problem……

Out of my conversations and although there are only 3 links ⬆️, I have been having these conversations since the engine in my car blew almost a year ago. Being put into a situation of using a cab service has opened my understanding to things that I am guilty of being blissfully unaware of in any real REAL sense. Yes, I have spoken to many other race groups but it is usually within my work relations, or within my sexual preference sub-culture or in passing as I go past in my daily hustle.
Being in a cab can be terribly awkward daaaaarling, if one does not talk to the only other occupant; the driver. This year has taught me so much!!!!

I am ashamed to be a white male living in ZA.

HERE IS WHY?

The #noconfidencevote has stirred up an entire nation that each seek to be validated. Watching some fluff on Netflix, trying to switch off and fall asleep from it all but can't.
The BIGGER picture is terrifying! Seriously!

I know that I am not an amazing poet, but heck I try…..lol.
What this poem is about is the bigger picture of Africa.
Let me zoom out for you a little bit….
Once upon a time Africa was filled with only Africans. Traveling people came. Wars were fought. Land cultivated, mines, industry etc etc blah blah blah.
Back to today…..
Religion teaches that God made all man equal. Evolutionists claim that all life started in Africa. Technology makes information available.
All good so far, not rocket science really or is it?

THE MATH:

WHY IF AFRICA IS THE ORIGIN OF ALL LIFE, AND ALL PEOPLE ARE EQUAL ARE THE AFRICAN AFRICANS, COMING FROM BEING SOLD AS SLAVES TO THE WESTERN WORLD & SLAVES IN AN APARTHEID REGIME STILL THE LEAST BENEFITED PEOPLE IN THE WORLD OF ITS OWN RESOURCES AND LABOUR.
The African is angry…….can you blame them? Can I really claim any rights being born here when the politeness of an African Africa has been disappointed by many a failed promise?!?!?!

Wouldn't you be angry!

The indignity of having to sell yourself, via live streaming on sex sites to try make money to survive, or to clean the homes of a pale skin people who are actually foreigners on your continent, who treat you badly and pay even worse….wouldn't you be angry!
Herein lies the problem…

79.2% of African Africans make up the total population! We have a corrupt government!
Skilled/professionals are emigrating leaving parents behind. The birth rate is climbing in the majority population whilst incomes are not.
Elitists are keeping themselves separate from the masses which creates the impression of an unwillingness to treat the origin of all life, made equal by God, who are hard done by by the industries that they sweated blood for……..
OF WHICH DURING APARTHEID 1/10 OF THE POPULATION CONTROLLED EVERYTHING!

Wouldn't you be angry!

So now we have a moderately educated mass of people with access to global information and an ever-increasing awareness that they lost out on the treasure of their birthright continent….

AND IF WAR BREAKS OUT…AND IF THE SATISFACTION OF CLAIMING ITSELF BACK AS THE RIGHTFUL OWNERS OF ITS CONTINENT….AND IF THE CONTINENT DECIDES TO GET SOME OF THE ORIGIN OF ALL LIFE WEALTH BACK FOR ITSELF?!?!?!

YOU CATCH MY DRIFT!!!!!!!

Let's just hope that enough, love gets spread around fast enough to calm the angry African. We have seen the costs of war and it is devastating…..
I do not want to be an alarmist, but the pictures that have run through my head are staggering to say the least…… now take that scenario to the angry chinaman or angry Indian…..
Catch my drift……?!?!?!?!?
WORLD POPULATION BY COUNTRY

A CAUTION TO THE WISE, BEST WE START SPREADING SOME OF THE LOVE REAL FAST BECAUSE TECHNOLOGY IS GROWING INTO THE WORLD AT AN ALARMING RATE THAT IS BRINGING WITH IT DISSATISFACTION.

Think about it……people talk……that we know for a fact! The other thing is:' If all life started in Africa aren't all the citizens on the planet actually African?'

Stay your amazing self!

✌🏽
AJB•